Putting your list ahead of yourself?
As someone who says yes to many things and puts others needs before your own, it’s easy to skip your morning workout or miss having lunch with a close friend because you haven’t checked off things from your list or it feels like there’s just no time.
You want things to be better.
You want to do the right thing. You want to have more joy in your life.
You can’t keep working at this pace for another 10 years.
If this doesn’t change, you don’t know how you’re going to get through another week.
I get it.
I work with people like you who are successful and “have it all” — the great career, the beautiful children, the great friends, nice partner, and the dreamy home.
And yet, find that having all of it sometimes means not having enough energy to have fun with your kids, alone time to decompress or do nothing at all, or connection with your well-meaning partner; all of which can lead to more satisfaction in your life.
When you allow yourself the time to take a break, instead of enjoying the luxury of doing anything you choose or nothing at all, you are hard on yourself for not being productive or you feel like you’ve wasted precious time.
Tired of feeling invisible?
Your parents loved you dearly, but taught you how to attend to their needs and values or dismiss yours.
For some first generation-American families, or people who were raised in particular religions or cultures, speaking up was not something learned because it was considered talking back.
You were not taught not to say no, and you did not learn how to communicate effectively with loved ones.
You did learn to avoid conflicts at all costs.
Therapy puts you first.
The time is devoted to you, your needs, and your wants.
We talk about that you’re worried about, the things that you do, what’s troubling you, and all the feelings that come with that.
We can talk about things that you don’t want to burden your friends and family about, the things that are scary, the things you’ve avoided, and the things you wish you could say or do but can’t.
Therapy helps you make changes.
Make changes with positive lasting results:
- Say yes to the things you want to say yes to
- Say no to things you don’t have more time for and with less guilt
- Allow you to have time for yourself
- Set boundaries
- Understand how you got into this situation
- Get in touch with your own wants and desires
- Communicate in more effective ways with your husband, wife, partner, and children
- Take things less personally
- Feel more connected to yourself and the people you love
Let me help you.
Don’t spend another minute feeling resentful in your relationships.
Let today be the day you begin the next chapter in your life.
You don’t have to do this alone.
Call me today at (415) 354-4241.
You’re looking forward to picking you sweet kid from school.
As you sit waiting for her in the car, you wonder how her day went and remember she had trouble getting to sleep the night before.
You spot her amongst all the other kids and smile as you watch her say goodbye to her friends.
She’s smiling, too, and she looks as though she’s in good mood.
Your kid melts down and then shuts down.
Just as she enters the car, there’s a scowl on her face and she can’t stop complaining about her day: how the test was unfair, how her friend ignored her, and how she didn’t eat lunch because she didn’t like what you made her.
At first you feel protective and consider having a talk with her friend’s mother but then you start to feel irritated. You were excited to see her after a long day and all she can do is complain, again.
You can’t take it anymore; you raise your voice and say, “That’s enough!”
She shuts down and doesn’t say another thing until dinner.
It’s difficult to pinpoint, but something isn’t working.
Sometimes interactions such as these and others can escalate into bigger blow-ups or melt-downs.
As a busy and concerned parent, it’s confusing not knowing what just happened and why.
Does this have something to do with the math test? Is she having a hard time with the move? Is she missing her grandfather? Is this about the divorce?
You can’t seem to pinpoint what it is that is bringing up this behavior.
I know what you want what is best for your kid.
You feel like you’ve tried everything in an effort to help guide and support them.
What you do know is that this is happening over and over and somehow what you’re doing does not seem to be working.
A fresh perspective…. a sounding board.
You want to learn different ways to respond and you don’t want this to continue.
You are open to the idea that there is meaning underlying behaviors.
You want a fresh perspective or sounding board and you’re open to getting feedback about your child.
If you’re finding yourself experiencing something similar, child therapy can be very helpful your kid.
Child therapy is designed for kids.
Child therapy is therapy that is tailored for kids needs and is designed to see and understand things from their perspective.
Kids express themselves differently from adults.
They don’t always know what is happening and have a hard time verbalizing what’s going on. Even for highly verbal kids, it can be hard to articulate their feelings effectively, explain what’s going on, or express what they need.
I create a safe place for kids to open up, feel at ease, and share what’s on their mind.
For kids under 12 years old, I use carefully selected toys, art materials, sand tray, and figures to help them to express themselves, learn skills, and process emotions naturally through play.
By expressing their thoughts and feelings freely and safely, verbally or through play, kids begin to understand themselves and start to feel better.
Help is here.
I have extensive training and experience in child therapy and have worked with many kids and teens who are high achieving, worrying, grieving, or have low self-esteem.
I specialize in helping high achieving kids whose happiness is at risk from staying up too late studying, putting school work before friendships, spending time with toxic friends, procrastinating with high school or college applications because they are so worried they won’t get into the school of their choice, or obsessing over unnecessary details.
I help kids and teens:
- Be more polite
- Communicate their needs which leads to less tantrums
- Go to bed a reasonable time
- Initiate conversations with me about how they’re feeling
- Learn how to make and maintain healthy friendships
- Set boundaries with toxic friends
Child therapy can help kids and teens handle tough situations or losses, build stronger relationships, and recover from new or unexpected changes or setbacks.
Let’s help your kid feel better now and develop life long skills.
Help your teenager step into being an adult without throwing tantrums along the way.
While parenting can be joyous and rewarding…
it can also be hard, stressful, and confusing!
None of us were given a manual.
Whether your kid is a toddler, teen, or young adult, parent’s today struggle with balancing demanding work schedules with hectic family life.
Parenting can be stressful for everyone.
Rushing to and from work. Picking up tired children from school and other activities.
Preparing nutritious meals – while managing allergies or other special food needs.
Refereeing arguments between siblings.
All the while trying to stay connected to your husband, wife, or partner or managing a healthy co-parenting relationship.
Even the best parents can find themselves in hot moments.
Reacting, demanding, punishing, yelling…
These “hot” moments can leave parents feeling frustrated, guilty, and inadequate.
Kids and teens in turn often feel unheard, rushed, controlled, mad, or confused.
We KNOW what we should be doing is:
Reflecting, connecting, guiding, teaching…
These are the moments we want to be having with our kids.
But it’s so hard.
Ready to Upgrade your Family Structure?
If these “hot” moments are happening more frequently and you are wanting:
- To respond with more patience and calm.
- To have a peaceful start to your work day.
- To talk to your kid so he or she will listen.
- For your kid offer to help out in the morning. Instead of chasing/nagging him or her to get things done.
- More loving moments with your child.
- More peace in household.
There’s another way.
If you’re ready to take a courageous step to…
… look at yourselves and recognize you’re are in relationship with your child,
… be curious about your own and your kid’s inner world,
… really want understand what might be going on beneath your child’s behavior, and
… want improve your relationship with your child,
I can help you become a more reflective and mindful parent.
A reflective parenting approach can be effective during hot moments and in turn improve your child’s resiliency and your connection with your kid.
Call me today.
Please don’t wait.
If you are a preschool director, school principal, or PTO/PTA board member and would interested in a parenting workshop about transitions, grief, or anxiety at your school, please call me (415) 354-4241 or book online.
Something Missing in Your Practice?
Sam meets with her supervisor to discuss her case load.
During the meeting, she notices that he seems to focus on administrative issues:
Did she see enough clients this week? Was her paperwork signed and turned in on time?
She has noticed that he’s cancelled quite a few of her supervision sessions.
Looking for More?
She wants to talk more about details of her last session, but she doesn’t get to it… again.
Even when she does get to discuss a case, he seems more focused on symptom reduction. Of course, she knows this is important, but…
She is also interested in understanding her client’s family traumas and losses, connecting more with her client, and using other interventions that can deepen her work.
Anita has tried to bring her concerns to his attention, but he doesn’t seem to notice that there’s an issue. He seems a bit overwhelmed himself and she doesn’t want a negative review.
Where Consultation Fits
As a licensed mental health clinician, graduate student, or intern, you like your job and the clients your serve…
But something is missing.
Not getting what you need from your supervisor and would like a supplemental source of support and guidance?
Wanting to work more deeply in your cases—examining in detail the factors underlying client behavior and exploring a range of possible interventions?
Needing professional expertise at your side so that you can focus on professional development?
Feeling isolated and longing for fresh perspectives, a sounding board, or help with a particular issue or case?
Considering opening up a private practice or offering online therapy but just don’t know how to get started or how to get it off the ground and running?
Whether you’re a beginning or seasoned therapist, I can help.
Let me Be the Partner at Your Side
Whatever your issue or challenge, I have the knowledge and experience to be able to give you specific ideas and suggestions to help you meet it head on.
Plus, as a partner at your side, I can help you feel more grounded and confident as you face these challenges.
I’m here to help.
For California residents only
Too busy to get to therapy?
There’s a lot on your plate: work and family demands.
You understand the value of ongoing personal work and you still need support with anxiety.
But you are way too busy to get to therapy.
Online therapy is the answer.
In order to run or show up at this A+ level in your business, parenting, and marriage, it’s necessary for you to have dedicated time for just you.
You need to feed your own emotional health. Having quality, dedicated time every week, to focus on you, allows you to achieve the greatness you desire.
What is online therapy?
Through online therapy also known as video counseling, telehealth, telemental health, or telemedicine, we can meet remotely by secure HIPAA compliant videoconference.
We can meet at a time that works for you: during your lunchtime at your office, while your baby or toddler is napping at 10 am or 1:30 in the afternoon, while your mother’s helper is watching your little one, or during your conference break while traveling for business
How does online therapy work?
Through your computer, tablet or smart phone, as long as you have a camera and an internet connection, you can have therapy wherever you are.
And for many people your insurance may covers this service.
You need to be a California resident and you need to be in California during your session.
Who uses online therapy?
Online therapy is for busy professionals, parents, caretakers, and anyone who needs to not lose time in transit. People who would otherwise not make their mental health or emotional well-being a priority.
If you tend to put everybody first, this is a great remedy for you.
Is online therapy a good fit for you?
It’s not a lot to ask from yourself or your family to have 45 minutes a week that is completely devoted 100% to you.
A time on your lunch hour or a time that works best for you, that you always know will be devoted to you, your needs, your wants, your desires, your dreams, your health, your wellness; so that you can serve everyone else in your life the way that you do.
If you’re ready to experience more patience and calm, inner peace, clarity of mind, and a restored sense of energy and enthusiasm in your relationship, marriage, or job, then online therapy is for you.